Start with the life you have
How would you like to get to know someone? Through long conversations, a shared activity or a short first date?
If big social events feel unfamiliar, a smaller group might suit you better. If time is limited, a planned coffee may feel easier than keeping lots of chats going. You can choose a way of dating that works for you.
Give people a chance to get to know you
A course, club or regular activity can create opportunities to meet the same people more than once. Choose something you are curious about, so the experience feels worthwhile even if you do not meet a partner there.
You can also tell a friend you would like to meet someone:
“I would like to start dating. If you know someone you think I would get along with, feel free to ask both of us.”
If you want to meet someone online
Think about the approach you prefer. Would you like to browse lots of profiles yourself, or receive a more focused selection?
Read how the service works, what it costs and whether there are relevant people where you live. Then describe something concrete about yourself and what you hope to find:
“I would love to meet someone to share everyday dinners and little trips with. I want to get to know someone with a relationship as a possible direction.”
Let the first meeting be a first meeting
You do not need to decide your future over a coffee. Afterwards, ask yourself: Was I curious? Did we both have room to speak? Would I like to see this person again?
Choose a public place and an arrangement that feels comfortable. You can always decline or end the meeting.
Choose one small step this week
Tell a friend you would like to meet someone, sign up for an activity or rewrite your profile so it describes you better.
Aivelyn Matchmaker uses your answers and priorities to provide explained match suggestions. The suggestions available depend on relevant profiles and mutual preferences. The first meeting and the decision to continue are always yours.